Getting Over The Loss
When a relationship ends,
especially if you're not the one who ended it, how to get over someone becomes very important. It’s not always easy
to get over a person you’ve been with, though. If you’ve been with that person for a very long time it’s even
harder. It might be pretty easy to get over a relationship that’s lasted 3 months. But if you've been with someone
for 3 years, it's hard to get over that person at all, let alone get over them quickly. Fortunately, there are some
things you can do to speed up the process.
When you're wondering how to get over
someone, sit in a chair in your living room or bedroom, wherever there’s a very strong sense of the other person.
Remove anything that reminds you of that person a great deal. This isn't always easy to do, but every little bit
helps. If you've bought a dog together, for instance, of course you won’t want to get rid of the dog. But anything
your ex bought for you that’s on display like a knick-knack or something hanging on the wall would be a good thing
to remove for a while.
If you have lots of
things that will remind you of your ex, you're probably wondering how to get over someone without making your rooms
completely bare. But even if you picked out practically everything together, you don’t have to remove everything to
make this work. Just choose items that have particularly strong memories.
Maybe you picked out the couch together,
but it's one of the throw pillows that you bought or the figurine on the end table he or she gave you as a gift
that seems to make you feel sad when you look at it. Remove those items and store them for a while, just to make
things easier on you.
If you’re having a really hard time and
feel that you can handle it, you can think of all your ex’s bad qualities. Of all the methods of how to get over
someone, this is the one where you actually think of your ex the most, so if just the very thought of them brings
you to tears you might not be ready for this step. Think of the things you disliked the most about them. If you
can’t thing of anything, just move on. But most of us can come up with a long list of things we dislike about
someone, especially if they were the ones to end the relationship.
A popular method of how to get over
someone is to simply start dating again. Many people balk at this idea—they think they still love the ex and aren’t
ready. You can do this even if you’re still in love with your ex. No one says you have to fall in love anytime
soon. But dating or even going out with friends isn’t just how to get over someone, it’s how to keep from feeling
sorry for yourself while you try.